Showing posts with label Deep Thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Deep Thoughts. Show all posts

Friday, 16 May 2014

Why Discriminate?

~ I warn you this is a rant ~
(congratulations if you read to the end)

I feel as if there is something that I need to get off my chest, and as with anything, my chosen way to do it is by writing a blog post. I know people don't want to read rants all day and that's seemingly all I ever do on here, but seeing as there's only six of you (who I love, don't get me wrong), I've decided this is where I'll do it. Apologies.


I have never really understood why people have issues with things such as other peoples' sexuality, skin colour, gender etc. I am fully aware of the occurrences and historical events that have forced our society into believing that equality is essentially a myth, but I have always struggled with the question of WHY?

WHY is it such an issue if another person is gay? It does not affect your life in any way, shape or form. It does not mean that the person is in ant way less human, they merely have a different sexual orientation to you. 

It is the same scenario with racism - why demoralise someone purely due to the colour of their skin or the country that they have come from when again, they are in no way any less human than every one of us.

You wouldn't discriminate against somebody for having a different favourite colour to yours, so why discriminate them because of the colour of their skin?

You wouldn't discriminate against somebody for having friends of the opposite sex so why discriminate against them for having a partner of the opposite sex?

I am so fed up of seeing casual sexist, racist and homophobic comments thrown around like they're nothing. I don't think you realise just how much they hurt people, people like my friends, and even if you did see the damage they caused, to be honest I'm not even sure you'd stop. 

We live in a society where it's hard to change the way people act and speak, and I accept that, but it genuinely saddens me that even at primary school, people are saying things like "that's so gay", or repeating racist slurs they've seen online without even knowing what they mean.

Everybody will live a different life. If people have different preferences or different backgrounds then that is a part of their life, not a reason for them to be discriminated against.

Everybody's different, but we're all human.

Wednesday, 14 May 2014

Stephen.


I think most teenagers have heard the quote “My thoughts are stars I can't fathom into constellations”, and this is honestly how I feel at the moment. I have just heard the sad news that Stephen Sutton, one of the most courageous, selfless, amazing, beautiful and inspirational young people in the world has passed away after losing his battle with cancer.

FU Cancer.

All of the adjectives to describe Stephen have already been used so I am unable to complement you and your spirit any more than that. You are beyond words. But you are definitely a hero and you will continue to inspire millions of people.

I never met Stephen, but I’m honestly so upset by his death. I stumbled across his page accidently last summer, and reading his inspirational posts and hearing about his amazing work never fail to remind me of how lucky I am and how you shouldn’t let anything or anyone get in your way. I know it sounds horribly cliché but I really don’t want to regret not doing something or not doing enough in my life, and Stephen has helped me to realise this. You’re only on this earth once, and from now on, I am going to try to make every single day count, just like Stephen did.

I realise I've just said that he lost his battle with cancer, but that isn’t completely true. His body did, yes; but the work that he did and all of the money that he raised brings us all one step closer to kicking cancer’s butt, and let me tell you now – I can’t wait for that day to come.

Before Stephen died he made a video which I would like to share with you. I’ve watched it countless times and each time it makes me feel so inspired. I was going to write a post in a few weeks’ time about how amazing Stephen is and about his battle and what he’s achieved, but it feels right to write it now. I don’t need to tell you about him. The outpouring tributes and this video says it all.


“I don’t see the point in measuring life in terms of time anymore. I’d rather measure life in terms of making a difference.” – Stephen Sutton

Photo courtesy of The Guardian

RIP Stephen

Sunday, 17 November 2013

Loss.

You know how people always say you should find the positives in everything and ignore the negatives? I try to do this as much as possible, but, like everything, this isn’t always possible.

I don’t mean to put a downer on your day by talking about death, but the reason why I started this blog was to be able to put down my feelings and hopefully in some way sort my mess of a mind out, and so this is what I’m going to try to do now. I hope I don’t offend anyone in this post, as I realise it’s a subject which you have to try and skirt around and just not talk about it, as it’s almost a taboo subject.

A friend of mine lost a family member very recently, which was the trigger for me to start thinking about loss, and it made me reminisce on the people I’d lost and how this affected and shaped me as a person. Probably my earliest experience of loss was my much loved dog dying when I was four years old, and I can remember sitting on the bottom stair and being told by my mum that he hadn’t been very well and had gone to heaven. I think it’s strange that I can remember being told this but I can’t remember being told that my Grandad had died (which was around the same time). It almost makes me wonder if I had been told or not, or if I’d worked it out for myself. I don’t know.
The death, however, which probably had the greatest impact on me was the when my friend had died when I was eight years old. He was nine and to this day I can remember the exact words my mum said to me and where I was when I was told about his passing. I was sat on my bed making a Easter card as it was Maundy Thursday, and when my mum came in I tried to sit on my card because it was a surprise for her. I can remember the words she said to me, and I can remember how when she left, she came back into the room and asked how close I was to him. I can remember going back to school and how everyone avoided talking about him, except in assembly when we had a silence for him and all of his friends brought in daffodils to put in a peace garden we made for him, and how each year on April 13th whilst we were at that school we would each place a single daffodil there, until it was just a few of us who still remembered. I remember the talks our teacher gave us, the talk by the head teacher and the time my friend completely lost it because he missed him so much and he just started throwing chairs and turning over tables. It’s hard to find a positive in that, don’t you think?

The first day back at school after my friend died, we were all given a piece of paper in which we had to draw a picture which reminded us of him and write something about him to give to his mum. I drew a picture of him holding a daffodil (even though it just looked like a stickman holding a torch with a coloured orange mess for hair) and wrote “he’s always smiling”. I remember being laughed at by other girls who told me I must be stupid because “no one can always be smiling” and I can remember the teachers reply “it’s something nice his mum will like to read”. I can then remember her asking me to redraw it and change it to “he was”. I didn’t because I told her that he is probably still smiling in heaven with all of the other angels. I don’t even know if my picture got put in the collage for his mum because of my grammatical error.

Can you find a positive in losses as strong as this? I lost a friend who had had a huge impact on my life in a positive way. He let me sit and talk to him when I was bullied at lunch times, and let me play Rose in his Doctor Who game (I had never even seen it, but he made me feel like I knew everything). He told me how he wanted to be someone who helped a lot of people when he was older, or go to the moon. It’s a cruel world which never allowed him to go to the moon, or let him “get older”. He did help people though. He helped me. I only knew him for four years, but in the last year or so, when the bullying I went through was starting to get pretty bad, he noticed when nobody else did and sometimes didn’t play with his friends and came and spoke to me when I was crying in the corner of the playground, or hiding in a bush (I was a great believer of the idea if I couldn’t see them, nobody would see me). I am eternally grateful to him for this, and I guess before writing this post I never really realised how important he was in my life.

This blog post started with me saying how I was wondering if you could find positives in everything. I don’t think this is true in situations such as this. Another saying is how you don’t know and appreciate what you’ve got until you’ve lost it and this is true. I’m never going to stop thinking about what my friend could have grown up to be or where he would be now, and I wonder if I would still be friends with him, if he would still have the same dreams and ambitions, or silly little things like would he have done well in his gcse’s or be looking forward to the 50 year Doctor Who episode next Saturday. He never had the chance to “get older” or to fulfil what he wanted to be when he “grew up”, because he never did.

I’m sorry, this post was going to be a whole long philosophical post about how in some ways loss could be considered important, but I just put down every single thing that was running through my head, and I ended up with this mess.


RIP to all those who were taken away so soon. I love and miss you more than you will ever know. Thank you for everything you did for me in your short life, I wish you were still here today.

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

On Wednesdays, we wear pink | Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

As some of you may know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. This month is especially poignant for me as I personally know somebody now who is fighting against Breast Cancer. I'd planned this blog post a long time ago, but due to school work and various other reasons, I never wrote it. I'd originally planned to write it on the first Wednesday of October, and name it "On Wednesdays, we wear pink." and do it that way. I also thought I would have a cool mean girls picture and have a moodboard full of pink fashionable things, like pink coats, pink makeup etc. Well, I've given you one of the two things, so I hope you're satisfied.





The facts

  • The number of people being diagnosed with breast cancer is increasing, but the good news is survival rates are improving. This is probably because of more targeted treatments, earlier detection and better breast awareness.
  • The biggest risk factor, after gender, is increasing age – 80% of breast cancers occur in women over the age of 50.
  • Breast cancer also affects men, but it’s rare – around 400 men are diagnosed each year.
  • Breast cancer is not one single disease there are several types of breast cancer.
  • Not all breast cancers show as a lump, and not all breast lumps are breast cancer.
  • Less than 10% of all breast cancers run in families, so having someone in your family with breast cancer doesn’t necessarily mean your own risk is increased.
The stats
  • Every year nearly 55,000 people are diagnosed in the UK. That’s the equivalent of 150 people every day or one person every 10 minutes.
  • 1 in 8 women in the UK will develop breast cancer in their lifetime.
  • Nearly 12,000 people die from breast cancer in the UK every year.
  • Breast cancer is the second most common cause of death from cancer in women in the UK, after lung cancer.
  • Of adults aged between 25-49, breast cancer accounts for 45% of all female cancers.
  • There are an estimated 550,000 people living in the UK today who have had a diagnosis of breast cancer.

Anyway, to try to do my little bit to spread the awareness, I've found you all 53 little facts about Breast Cancer that are pretty much unknown, and some of them are pretty interesting, so I hope you like it.
1.     The youngest known survivor of breast cancer is Aleisha Hunter from Ontario, Canada. At only three years old, Aleisha underwent a complete mastectomy in 2010 to treat her juvenile strain of breast cancer.
2.     Breast cancer is the most common type of cancer among American women after skin cancer. It is the second leading cause of cancer death in women after lung cancer.
3.     The first operation to use anesthesia was a breast cancer surgery.
4.     The incidence of breast cancer is highest in more developed countries and lowest in less developed countries.
5.     The left breast is statistically more prone to developing cancer than the right breast. Scientists are unsure why.
6.     In the U.S., an average of 112 women die of breast cancer every day, or one every 15 minutes.
7.     The United States has the most cases of breast cancer in the world.
8.     The first recorded mastectomy for breast occurred in A.D. 548 on Theodora, Empress of Byzantine.
9.     Only 5-10% of breast cancers occur in women who have a genetic predisposition for it. However, women with the gene mutation run a lifetime risk as high as 4 in 5 of developing the disease. The risk of developing ovarian cancer also rises to 2 in 5.
10.  When breast cancer spreads beyond the breast, it is said to be “metastatic.” The most common places breast cancer spreads to are the bones, liver, and lungs.
11.  There are currently 2.5 million breast cancer survivors living in the United States.
12.  During 2002-2006, 95% of new cases and 97% of breast cancer deaths occurred in women 40 years and older. The biggest single risk factor for breast cancer is age.
13.  White women have a higher incidence of breast cancer than African American women. However, African American women are more likely to die from breast cancer than white women.
14.  Currently, about 1 in 3,000 pregnant or lactating women will develop breast cancer. Research has shown that once a woman has been diagnosed with breast cancer during pregnancy, her chances of survival are less than a non-pregnant woman.
15.  It has been estimated that if every woman over the age of 50 had her yearly mammogram, breast cancer deaths in this age group would drop by 25% or more.
16.  Breast cancer in men is rare, accounting for approximately 1% of breast cancer rates in the U.S. Nearly 400 men die of breast cancer each year. African American men are more likely to die from breast cancer than white men.
17.  Risk factors for male breast cancer include age, BRCA gene mutations, Klinefelter’s syndrome, testicular disorders, a family history of female breast cancer, severe liver disease, radiation exposure, being treated with estrogen-related drugs, and obesity.
18.  One in 40 women of Ashkenazi (French, German, and East European) Jewish descent carry the BRCA1 and BRCA2 (breast cancer) gene, which is significantly higher than in the general population where only 1 in 500 to 800 people carry the gene.
19.  The risk for breast cancer increases when a woman has been using HRT for more than five years. The largest risk is when both estrogen and progesterone are given together. Women who have had a hysterectomy and are taking pills containing estrogen alone are at less of a risk.
20.  One myth about breast cancer is that a person’s risk is increased only when there are affected relatives on the mother’s side of the family. However, the father’s side of the family is equally important in assessing breast cancer risk.
21.  Tumors are more likely to be malignant when they are firm and have irregular shapes, while benign tumors are more likely to feel round or soft. However, it is important to see a doctor when any lump is found in the breast.
22.  In 1810, the daughter of John and Abigail Adams, Abigail “Nabby” Adams Smith (1765-1813) was diagnosed with breast cancer. She underwent a grueling mastectomy—without anesthesia. Unfortunately, she still eventually died from the disease three years later.
23.  Breast cancer was often called the “nun’s disease” because of the high incidence of nuns affected by the cancer.
24.  Mammography was initially used in 1969 when the first specialized X-ray units for breast imagining were developed.
25.  In 1882, the father of American surgery, William Steward Halstead (1852-1922), introduced the first radical mastectomy (the breast tissue underlying chest muscle and the lymph nodes are removed). Until the mid 1970s, 90% of women with breast cancer were treated with this procedure.
26.  Breastfeeding has consistently been shown to reduce breast cancer—the greater the duration, the greater the benefit.
27.  Although not fully understood, research suggests that pre-eclampsia is associated with a decrease in breast cancer risk in the offspring and the mother.
28.  There are a number of misconceptions about what can cause breast cancer. These include, but are not limited to, using deodorants or antiperspirants, wearing underwire bras, having a miscarriage or induced abortion, or bumping/bruising the breast tissue.
29.  JAMA study reports that women who had taken between one and 25 antibiotic prescriptions over an average of 17 years had an increased risk for breast cancer. The results do not mean women should stop taking antibiotics but that these medicines should be used wisely.
30.  Women with high breast density were found to have a four- to six-fold increased risk of breast cancer compared with women with lower breast density.
31.  No association has been found between breast implants and an increased risk of breast cancer. However, the FDA recently announced that breast implants might be associated with anaplastic large cell lymphoma (ALCL). ALCL is not breast cancer, but may show up in the scar capsule surrounding the implant.
32.  One study found that increased exposure to ethylene oxide, a fumigant used to sterilize medical experiments, is associated with higher breast cancer risk among women who work in commercial sterilization facilities.
33.  Nurses who work night shifts and flight attendants who have circadian rhythm disruption have a higher risk of breast cancer with long-term employment. The International Agency for Research on Cancer recently concluded that shift work, especially at night, is carcinogenic to humans.
34.  Currently a woman living in the U.S. has a 12.1% (or 1 in 8) chance of being diagnosed with breast cancer. In the 1970s, the risk was 1 in 11. The increase is most likely due to longer life expectancy as well as changes in reproductive patterns, longer-term menopausal hormone use, increased obesity, and increased screening.
35.  The most common type of breast cancer (70%) originates in the breast ducts and is known as ductal carcinoma. A less common type of breast cancer (15%) is known aslobular carcinoma, or cancer that originates in the lobules. More rare types of cancers include medullary carcinoma, Paget’s disease, tubular carcinoma, inflammatory breast cancer, and phyllodes tumors.
36.  Nearly 10.4 % of all cancers in women is breast cancer.
37.  Approximately 1.2 million cases of breast cancer are diagnosed around the world each year. About 75% are found in women over age 50.
38.  The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition reports a higher risk of breast cancer in women who take multivitamins.
39.  Research has found that pomegranates may help prevent breast cancer. Chemicals called ellagitannins block the production of estrogen, which can fuel some types of breast cancer.
40.  Studies report that breast cancer patients with diabetes were nearly 50% more likely to die than those who didn’t have diabetes.
41.  Long-term breast survivors who were treated with radiation before 1984 have much higher rates of death due to heart disease.
42.  There is a strong correlation between increased weight and breast cancer, especially those who gained weight in adolescence or after menopause. Body fat composition in the upper body also increases the risk.
43.  On average, it takes 100 days or more for a cancer cell to double in size. It takes about 10 years for cells to divide to a size that can be actually felt.
44.  Notable women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer include “Sex and the City” star Cynthia Nixon (diagnosed in 2006 at age 40), Sheryl Crow (diagnosed in 2006 at 44), Kylie Minoque (diagnosed in 2005 at 36), Elizabeth Edwards (diagnosed in 2004 at 55), Jaclyn Smith (diagnosed in 2002 at 56), and Christina Applegate (diagnosed in 2008 at 36). Other historical figures include Mary Washington (mother of George Washington), Empress Theodora (wife of Justinian), and Anne of Austria (mother of Louis the XIV).
45.  Breast cancer was one of the first cancers to be described by ancient physicians. For example, physicians in ancient Egypt described breast cancer more than 3,500 years ago. One surgeon describes “bulging” tumors in the breast of which “there is no cure.”
46.  In 400 B.C., Hippocrates describe breast cancer as a humoral disease caused by black bile or melancholia. He labeled cancer karkinos, meaning “crab,” because the tumors seemed to have tentacles which looked like the legs of crab.
47.  To disprove the theory that breast cancer was caused by an imbalance of the four body humors, namely an excess of bile, French physicians Jean Astruc (1684-1766) cooked a slice of breast cancer tissue and a slice of beef and then chewed both. He said that because they tasted exactly the same, breast cancer tumor does not contain bile or acid.
48.  Some physicians throughout history have proposed that breast cancer was caused by several factors, including lack of sex—which caused reproductive organs, such as the breast, to atrophy and rot. Other physicians suggested that “vigorous sex” blocked the lymphatic system, that depression restricted blood vessels and trapped coagulated blood, and that a sedentary lifestyle slowed bodily fluids.
49.  Jerome Urban (1914-1991), who practiced the super-radical mastectomy in 1949, would remove not only the breast and axillary nodes but also the chest muscles and internal mammary nodes in a single procedure—often on patients who had tumors less than a centimeter large. He stopped in 1963 when he became convinced it worked no better than the less mutilating radical mastectomy.l
50.  October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month (NBCAM). The first NBCAM took place in October 1985.
51.  Studies show that social isolation and stress can increase the speed at which breast cancer tumours grow in animal models.
52.  Not all lumps that are found in the breast are cancerous but may be a fibrocystic breast condition (disease), which is benign.
53.  Researchers speculate that left-handed women are more prone to developing breast cancer because they are exposed to higher levels of certain steroid hormones in the womb.

I wasn't actually going to write this post, as I sort of assumed that a lot of people would already know about Breast Cancer Awareness Month, as they would probably know a lot about Movember next month, but what really prompted me to write this post was because I found the blog of a lovely lady who passed away. Her name was  Susan Niebur, and you can find her blog here. I give you this warning: take a box of tissues when reading any post on here, you'll need them.

If you like this post, please help by spreading the awareness of Breast Cancer by showing it or sharing it to somebody else, or simply just to donate some money, because a little bit can honestly go such a long way.

Thank you!


Monday, 9 September 2013

caught up in the quest for perfection

Today is another one of those "random" postings where I just feel like I need to write my feelings down. Apologies. 
Something I found on tumblr which seemed appropriate.

I started sixth form last week, and I've already noticed how people are all trying to fit in with the people they deem to be "popular" or "pretty". I'm seeing people that I've spent the last five years with changing their interests and pretending to be something they're not so that they can change their friendship groups and make new friends. Making new friends is great, but not if you're pretending to be someone else whenever you're around them.

I go to an all girls school, so appearance is also something that I'm noticing a lot. The day before we started sixth form, I saw a huge long twitter feed about what everybody is wearing so that they weren't wearing something different to other people. The result: five or six girls wearing the EXACT same outfit from Primark: pepsi-cola baseball style tops, black leggings and white converse. Of course there were slight variants from this, some people wearing coca-cola T-Shirts and red converses. I'm not saying that every single person was copying everyone else, but I'm just saying you don't have to be the same as someone else to look nice. I complimented different people on their different outfits, and in return got some compliments about the dress I had chosen to wear.

The second day was just the same, and the third day after that. Everybody was wearing similar clothes, and it looked like everybody had had the same shopping spree in Primark/New Look (and a few of the rich kids in Abercrombie, Jack Wills and Hollister). I have nothing against any of these shops, or shopping for new clothes, I just feel like everybody has lost their originality and wants to be a carbon copy of everybody else. There are of course some people who have a beautiful and unique dress sense. There's a girl who embraces vintage in a way that only she can do (not the high-street fashion way, HER way), and I'm sort of jealous of how amazing/gorgeous/lovely/unique she looks every single darn day. She also has a blog but I don't think she knows I exist so that's why I'm not linking the blog/saying her name. She is far too cool for me and if I have any lessons with her, who knows? We may become great blogging friends :) But if not, it's not to be.

Everybody seems caught up in the quest for perfection. They don't understand that perfection doesn't just have the one definition, and nobody is perfect anyway. Is barbie perfect? No. I recently found this online and thought you should read it. It does actually make you feel slightly better about yourself.

If Barbie was an actual woman, she would be 5ft9 tall, have a 39" bust, an 18" waist, 33" hips, and a size 3 shoe. Her head would be the same circumference as her waist, meaning that she'd only have room for half a liver and a few inches of intestines. The result? Chronic diarrhoea and death. Also she would not be able to menstruate, meaning she would be infertile and unable to produce children. If Barbie was real, she would have to crawl on all fours due to her proportions. Her feet are so small, her chest would pull her forward onto her toes. Barbie calls this a 'full figure' and likes her weight at 110lbs. At 5ft9 and weighing 110lbs, Barbie would have a BMI of 16.24, and would fit the criteria for anorexia. Because Barbie's neck is twice as long as an average human's, it would be impossible for her to hold up her head; and yet this is the 'person' a lot of girls aspire to be.
Is she so perfect to you now?
I hope not.

Something else I found on tumblr:
Society is wrong. Dead wrong. We're taught that fake is beautiful. We're taught to believe that miniature waists and perfect tans are beautiful tans are beautiful. We're convinced that the blonde girls with the gorgeous smiles will win ever time. But, the truth is? Originality is beautiful. Big brown eyes, green eyes, blue eyes. Curves. Your natural skin tone is beautiful. Your hair colour, your smile. Your voice, your laugh, your personality. Every inch of you is beautiful, every single part of you shines with your essence. You my dear? You're beautiful.

Of course we've all got little things we want to change about ourselves. I've got a roman nose and would love to lose that little bit of weight in certain places, but you've got to accept you for YOU. I'm green-eyed, freckled and spectacled. Does that matter? Sometimes it bothers me of course. Some days I would love to have "perfect" smooth skin. Sometimes I would love to have perfect eyesight and glasses annoy me. On these occasions I sometimes wear contact lenses. You don't need to be a carbon copy of a supermodel to be considered beautiful. There are certain things you can't change about yourself. 

Don't get caught up in the quest for perfection, because the only way you can be anywhere near perfect is by being you. The true you.

~ rant over ~

P.S. I apologise for the lack of photography in my posts at the moment. My camera has a problem with it and is being fixed, so I've only got my phone. That's why quite a lot of my photo's are internet photo's. It should be fixed by next week though...hoorah!

Monday, 19 August 2013

Rockstar Ronan.

I've been reading Maya Thompson's blog for almost three years now. In August 2010, Maya's son, Ronan was diagnosed with Stage IV Neuroblastoma (a form of cancer common in children). He was three years old. He fought cancer for nearly a year, but he lost his battle on the 9th May, 2011. As his mother Maya puts it:
"Ronan's battle with Neuroblastoma ended on May 9, 2011, but his fight will go on. Ronan continues to inspire us in the way he lived his life full of passion, strength, and courage. He will live forever in our hearts and minds as the most beautiful little boy to ever have touched the earth. We, as a family, are determined to carry on his name, and find a cure for this horrible disease"
Credit: Rockstar Ronan
I remember when I first stumbled across Maya's blog when I was thirteen, and something about her and her beautiful family's strength had me hooked, and since then I have read every single post she has written. I've smiled with her, and cried with her, and I find it so hard to write about this because it means so much to me. I think it's down to the raw truth that Maya puts in her blog, she doesn't sugar coat anything, and just puts down her feelings, so you can't help but go on the journey with her. I can remember the day that I read her post saying that Ronan had lost his fight. I didn't cry at first, I was so in shock, but when I cried, boy, did I cry. This little boy had touched me so much in the eight months that I had known about him, probably more than anybody I'd actually met in real life. I know this must sound silly to some of you, but I promise, if you read a few of Maya's posts on Rockstar Ronan, you'll be touched in the same way that I have been.

Ronan and his story gained a lot of recognition in September 2012, after Taylor Swift released a beautiful song she had written called "Ronan", which she then performed at the "Stand up to Cancer telethon". Now, this single she penned is different to most other charity singles that people write. If you Google the writers of Ronan, you will see that Taylor credited Maya Thompson as co-writer, as, like me, she was touched by Maya's story and also read Rockstar Ronan. She wrote a song made up entirely of phrases and words used on the blog, and all of the money went to the charity that Maya Thompson has set up, the Ronan Thompson Foundation & other cancer-related charities.

I was going to write a blog post about how much I hate cancer and how I can't believe the strength that the Thompson's have & how beautiful their whole family is, but I've found I can't. I feel like I can't write a sugar-coated version of what they've all gone through. No one else can tell the story of Ronan, a beautiful boy who died just three days before his fourth birthday. You need to read Maya's blog and her posts, and then you can cry with me.

Nothing can be said to those people who have lost their friends or family to this horrible disease, and I find it amazing as to how Maya manages to put her feelings into words, when I'm struggling to find the right ones even in this blog post. I feel stupid for writing this post as if I knew him, and yet somehow managing not to have any emotion in it, even though I am trying my hardest. I can't put anything about Ronan or the Thompson's into words, I just...struggle.

It's angels like Taylor Swift who make sure that no one forgets about cancer. I feel like it's almost a taboo subject, no one wants to talk about children having cancer. I think it's because we don't like to think about something so innocent being cursed by something so...horrible (I can't think of an adjective to describe it, but maybe after reading Maya's blog, you'll be able to think of a fair few). I know that quite a lot of people don't like Taylor Swift for various reasons, but please, listen to Ronan, and read Maya's posts about what Taylor Swift has done for her and for her family. Even now, when they're in the same state, Taylor meets up with Maya, and they talk. In one of her blog posts in which she talks about Taylor Swift, she says
"This girl feels like a part of our family now, not some big celebrity. It’s funny because she’s never felt like some big celebrity to me. To me she’s always just felt like a normal girl who fell in love with you [Ronan] and who just happened to be in a position to make something really beautiful happen because she took a chance on us and followed her heart. To me, that has saved me in a way and I will forever be grateful to her and her old, wise soul. I have no doubt that many more beautiful things are to come."

What I think is so lovely about Maya and Taylor's relationship is that even though Maya shares basically everything about her life and Ronan on her blog, she says (when talking about her time with Taylor) "Some things just feel too sacred to be shared". If you need any convincing of Taylor Swift's angelic heart, you can find them here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and in many more places on Rockstar Ronan (click on the last links first). Even though you may consider her a normal celebrity, and you may "hate" her for some reason, trust me: After reading how Maya talks about her and for how grateful she is to her, you will gain some respect for her.



Maya's words: "Wise girl. Wise soul. Forever grateful."

Ronan by Taylor Swift, in a video made by a RoStar

Whilst on Maya's blog usually it is her feelings and words that affect me the most, just the other day I re-read some facts on an old blog post about cancer in children in the US, and as she puts it, it's "unf***ingacceptable" (Credit for these facts are to Rockstar Ronan):

  • Nationally, childhood cancer is 20x more prevalent than pediatric AIDS.
  • Pediatric AIDS receives 4x the funding that childhood cancer receives.
  • In one month there are 2x as many deaths from childhood cancer as pediatric AIDS for the entire year.
  • In the U.S. almost 3,000 children do not survive cancer each year.
  • Over the past 20 years, only TWO new cancer drug has been approved for pediatric use – Clofarabine (Clolar-Genzyme) in 2004 for ALL and Tenoposide (Vumar/VM-26-BMS) in 1990.
  • Only 3% of the National Cancer Institute Budget goes toward Pediatric Cancer Research.
  • September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness Month, which nationally goes unrecognised.
  • The federal government recently cut the budget for Childhood Cancer Research.
  • Currently there are between 30 – 40,000 children undergoing cancer treatment in the U.S.
  • Young patients often have a more advanced stage of cancer when first diagnosed. Approximately 20% of adults with cancer show evidence the disease has spread, yet almost 80% of children show that the cancer has spread at diagnosis.
  • Today, up to 75% of the children with cancer can be cured, yet some forms of childhood cancer have proven so resistant to treatment that, in spite of research, a cure is illusive.
  • As a nation, we spend over $14 BILLION per year on the space program, but only $35 million on Childhood Cancer Research each year.
  • There are 15 children diagnosed with cancer for every one child diagnosed with pediatric AIDS. Yet, the U.S. invests approximately $595,000 for research per victim of pediatric AIDS and only $20,000 for each victim of childhood cancer.
  • The National Cancer Institute’s (NCI) federal budget for 2003 was $4.6 billion. Of that, breast cancer received 12%, prostate cancer received 7%, and all 12 major groups of pediatric cancers combined received less than 3%.
  • Research funds are scarce as most money is diverted to well-publicized adult forms of cancer, such as breast and prostate.
  • In 2005, the American Cancer Society provided only 2.5% of funded grants, or 1.85% of dollars spent on research to pediatric cancer
Unbelievable.
(Note - I'm not sure how similar these figures are to that in the UK & the rest of the world)

I apologise for how rambly and unstructured this post is, but frankly, the truth is, I don't know how I can structure this. It's taken me over an hour and a half to write this much, because I just kept changing my mind on what I was going to say and deleting the whole thing and starting again. It's ridiculous, but I couldn't find the words. I also apologise for talking about Taylor Swift so much, I guess I got sidetracked, but I feel like people need to know about the good things she does for charity, which the media never seems to focus on, instead choosing to focus on her relationship with Harry Styles, or her changes in style, etc, and always focusing on the negatives. No. This girl is amazing in different ways for different people. If you don't like her music, fine. If you don't like the way she dresses, fine. These things don't change the fact that she did a truly amazing thing for one little boy and his family, and this needs to be recognised.

When I started this post, I seemed so sure of how it was going to pan out. I was going to speak about how much I hate cancer, especially in children, and write a few words which would make all of you cry and suddenly start to support childhood cancer, and look how it turned out. I challenge you to try to write a post like that. It's pretty darn near impossible unless you've lost someone close to you like Maya Thompson has. Please, go and read her blog, Rockstar Ronan, because she puts all the things I've tried to say into words, and is guaranteed to make you shed a tear or two, & I'm pretty sure she'll make you appreciate everything you have in life, and want to do something to help improve those who have been affected by cancer in some way.

Here are all the links you need:
Rockstar Ronan (the blog I keep talking about, written by Maya Thompson.) 

The reason why I'm telling you all about this and about Ronan Thompson is because September is Childhood Cancer Awareness month. So come on people, let's spread the word and make people dig deep in their pockets for SUCH a good cause!

Together, we WILL find a cure for cancer. Thank you Maya, for making me realise how much this is needed & the urgency for it, and for inspiring me. There is so much I want & need to say, but only you can find the right words to say them. I'm sorry. I'm sorry I couldn't write this post the way I wanted to, but honestly, no one writes the way you do. I love you. 

Finally, I would just like to say one thing: 
Ronan, you are loved to the moon and back, forever and always.

That is all. I'm sorry for turning this into a pointless, waffly near-novel. I can't put emotions very well into words.

Wednesday, 14 August 2013

Stuff I Heard by Accident that are actually Pretty Darn Good Quotes

A photo that I took yesterday evening down at the beach. I love how it looks like a what I call (oops - Miranda moment!) a "postcard picture". It reminds me of something that would be on a painting.
Yesterday I shared with you my enlightenment to the world of reality shows. Believe it or not, my post wasn't actually intended to be all about Made in Chelsea, I just managed to waffle the post out to way over 800 words, so decided to split the blog post into two parts: yesterdays post, and this one!

So you can read the whole broken alarm clock waffle in yesterday's blog post (the reason why I'm linking it so much is because I want you to click it ;) ) but you don't have to if you don't want to. All ya need to know is that I had some unexpected time, so I decided to try a new show that seems to be "the hype" at the moment - Made in Chelsea. I put the TV on E4, but MIC wasn't due to start for another 5 minutes or so. It was in fact on this show, called "One Tree Hill", that I was planning to write yesterday's blog post on, because it had so many good quotes that I felt I should share with you. The episode was the last one ever to air, so I suppose that they were all quotes summarising what the characters had learnt throughout the series, but as I've never watched it before, I didn't know the back-stories to the characters and why they said what they did, I just thought they were pretty darn good quotes! Soo, without further ado, here are the quotes! (If you feel it necessary, I give you permission to do a little cheeky drumroll)



"It's the oldest story in the world. One day you're 17 and planning for ‘someday’. And then quietly and without you really ever noticing, someday is today and then someday is yesterday and this is your life."

"We spend so much time wanting, pursuing, wishing, but ambition is good. Chasing things with integrity is good. Dreaming..."

"If you had a friend you may never see again, what would you say? If you could do one last thing for someone you loved, what would it be? Say it. Do it. Don't wait. Nothing lasts forever."

"Make a wish and place it in your heart. Anything you want, everything you want.

Do you have it? Good. Now believe it can come true.
You never know where the next miracle's gonna come from.
The next memory. The next smile. The next wish come true. 
But if you believe that it's right around the corner,
And you open your heart and mind to the possibility of it, to the certainty of it
You just might get the thing you've been wishing for."


"The world is full of magic ... you just have to believe in it."

"So make your wish...do you have it?
Good. Now believe in it. 

With ALL of you heart."

So there you have it - some stuff I heard by accident that are actually pretty darn good quotes! I hope you liked them and feel like you can relate to them as much as me :)


Thank you!

P.S. I apologise for doing quite a few "Life-lesson-important-and-serious" posts around the same time, but I felt that this is something that I should share with you. I also feel I should say that the reasons why I put a picture I took down the beach in this post are:

a) I like this picture

b) I like going to the beach when I need time to think, and these quotations require some serious thinking

c) I didn't know what other picture I should put in this post :)



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